OK, so a covert Narcissist with Narcissist Personality Disorder turns on their victim and abuses them. Sometimes during the discard phase but not always. It’ll be after a period of time that the Narcissist has built up a false friendly image of themselves around other people that the Genuine Victim knows.
The Narcissist Believer (Narc Believer) is one, maybe former friends of the victim, that choose to believe the Narcissist over the Genuine Victim due to the false facade the Narcissist has presented to these people.
So during worst of the abuse the Genuine Victim is reaching out to people they trust, friends, colleagues etc telling them of what the Narcissist has done. But the Narcissist has by this point gained the trust of these people and thus spins their own version of events to them. The result is these friends/colleagues believe the Narcissist instead and choose not to give any help or sympathy to the Genuine Victim.
But this is where it gets worse.
Different Narcissist Believers will react in different ways. Some will outrightly ignore the Genuine Victim every time they contact them for help. So for example, the Genuine victim has just been abused and is in a scared and shaken state. The Genuine Victim contacts these people only to be totally ignored or similar.
It is likely the Narcissist has told these people that the Genuine Victim just says these things to get attention or to further some negative agenda they have.
The Cruellest Revenge Tactics
The most cruellest revenge tactics a Narc Believer can do to a Genuine Victim is to give everything the Genuine Victim needs to the Narcissist and other people. But they won’t just do this and not tell the Genuine Victim. In the cruellest act of revenge they’ll rub the Genuine Victim’s face in it.
They’ll make sure the Genuine Victim sees them doing this. To a Narc Believer they feel this is a justified punishment because they believe the smear campaign of the Narcissist.
- They’ll do it directly in front of the Genuine Victim
- They’ll post it on social media
- They may even send the Genuine Victim images or videos as it is happening.
- They might also directly tell the Genuine Victim they’re doing this and in some cases they’ll tell the Genuine Victim that it’s because of their negative or cruel behaviour (a lie put forward by the Narcissist as part of their smear campaign).
- They’ll openly respect others whilst treating the Genuine Victim as if they are the lowest form of life that does not deserve the same attention.
- They may even laugh, or openly laugh, at the Genuine victim when they reach out for help or may even spread the smear campaign as further punishment because they believe the Genuine Victim deserves it.
They might even openly do it in front of the Genuine Victim whilst giving a look of “this other person deserves this because they are good, but you do not so let’s see how you like being punished.”
Perhaps in conversation online a Narc Believer will merely emoji a response of a Genuine Victim whilst others get a full reply and interaction.
It’s all a form of punishment to say “These people deserve this because they are decent and genuine people. However you (the Genuine Victim) are the lowest of the low and do not deserve any such attention”
So what would logically be directed at a Narcissist that has been found out, is actually being directed at the Genuine Victim that the Narcissist has abused.
The Genuine victim thus gets doubly punished. First the original punishment by the Narcissist and second by the Narc Believers.
What the Genuine Victim Experiences as a Result
- The Genuine Victim now has to watch their friends/colleagues/family, live out their lives in the full knowledge that the Genuine Victim cannot be part of it.
- The Genuine Victim now has to watch their friends/colleagues/family give everything they once gave to the Genuine Victim to the Narcissist or other people.
- The Genuine Victim now has to experience their friends/colleagues/family treating them like dirt whilst the Narcissist gets the full care and attention that they did not deserve.
How This Makes the Genuine Victim Feel
The Genuine victim feels like they’ve been psychologically stabbed where it hurts the most, have the knife left in and the knife being twisted in a continuous act of cruelty. This brings great emotional hurt to the Genuine Victim.
The Genuine Victim can feel:
- worthless
- non-valued
- rejected
- unsupported
- emotionally destroyed
- totally alone and isolated
The Genuine Victim might turn to other means to stop the pain. Such means might include:
- Excessive Alcohol Consumption
- Excessive Alcohol Consumption leading to more serious physical health complications
- Drugs
- Self Harm
- Suicide Attempts
The point is the Genuine Victim now feels totally valueless amongst their social circle support network and amongst their former friends/colleagues and even family.
And when someone feels they have no value the cease taking care of themselves because they believe they no longer matter.
It can leave them feeling dead to the world.
Other effects on the Genuine Victim could include:
- They stop going out or leaving their home
- They stop interacting with any friends they have left
- They lose interest in activities they once enjoyed
- They become totally withdrawn from people and society
And all because former friends/colleagues/family chose to believe the Narcissist without question and then took it upon themselves to punish the Genuine Victim without questioning whether that Genuine Victim was genuinely the one at fault.
